ATTITUDE CAN KEEP YOU FROM ATTITUDES

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The law of “Reciprocity” is applicable in almost every facet of life if not all. What you give is what you get. Attitude is your predisposition and reaction towards an idea or individual which is birthed from your perception, orientation, and thought process. simply put, your attitude sums up your personality.
Most times the reactions gotten from people are impressions they have had based on previous interactions, perceptions or similar experiences, and stereotypes. Often times, it could be that you are both having a bad day or some people are just blessed with an attitude problem but you can’t let that bother you or ruin your day. A fight cannot occur without two angry people, you don’t have to be the angry one. You can sway bad energy with good.
  Here are a few easy steps to revert  attitudes.

·          Work on Your Emotional Intelligence: yes your emotional intelligence, first of all what is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is your ability to become self aware and in control of the expression of your emotions and intra-personal relationship, this is what constrains you from reacting irrationally or giving someone a piece of their own cake. Emotional intelligence embodies self awareness: knowing your strength, weakness and impact on others, self regulation: controlling and managing disruptive impulses and reactions, empathy: understanding other people’s emotional make up and knowing just how to relate with them, social skill: having a good relationship with others which will enable you steer them towards achieving a desired result. How do you work on your emotional intelligence?  Remove yourself from the scenario, focus on the problem, see it from the other person’s perspective, and lastly address the issue like you would like to be addressed without offending the other person and also correcting their wrong.
·          Focus on the Big Picture:  can you get angry at someone issuing you a million dollar Cheque? No matter how annoying they are?  Well, the answer from me is NO; you won’t do that because there is a million dollar in the picture.  Imbibe that attitude in any situation, where ever it may be, formal or informal setting, ignore the tantrums and focus on what you are there to achieve. This will keep your cool, intact and give you positive results. To go farther in life you must learn to filter situations you attend to, weigh its cons, the outcome of your reaction and how beneficial it is to you before you put on a show.
·         Master Your Body Language: you could be saying nice words and keeping still but your body language could sell you out, people pay attention to your expressions when they talk to you.  I would advise you to master your body language so you don’t flip different switches at a time, you are saying one thing but your body language is saying another. Now I am not saying you should pretend, always take a time out to get yourself together, a deep breath would do or you excuse yourself and take time out to re-energize but whatever you do, let your actions and your words be in sync.





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